I love how positive jisbon shippers are, like there will be numerous photos of Lisbon kissing pike but the only one we see is the one with Jane’s hand in Lisbons hair!
To me, there’s so much miscommunication between Jane and Lisbon right now that it’s hard to pick a side when so much about the happiness in their lives is at stake. Neither can be happy without the other when they are so deeply in love with each other, imo. Distracted, yes. Happy, no.
Jane is way too slow off the mark. I don’t think anything can argue against it. Yes Lisbon said she wanted to make her own decisions and for him not to control her life. Instead of working through that in an open manner together, he completely retreated and desperately started trying to show her and signal her. She didn’t see or hear him, seeming only to grow angrier and angrier, all without checking things out to be sure what was going on.
Lisbon, instead of braving to talk to Jane, is seeking second best with a man she hardly knows and seems desperate to try to love. Before doing something so rash and leaving the man she deeply loves because she “thinks” he’s not ready or because he still wears his old wedding ring, is a damn big assumption in my book. I don’t think any rational woman when faced with such a loss would just slink away without checking it out. Hopefully, from what the spoilers tell us, she’s going to try to do that. Good for her. That’s what self-respect demands, imo.
Now, where it goes from there with Jane’s pending grand jury and his general feeling of not being good enough for Lisbon and not being the one to make her happy, I don’t think Lisbon is of the same opinion. I think she desperately wants Jane to speak for her. She is not happy leaving him behind. It’s written all over her face in getting Jane’s “cheery” encouragement towards Pike and then in the thought of leaving him behind for DC.
So I’m not picking sides here, although I’ve been very angry at each of them in turn, most recently Lisbon with Pike when he put the whole responsibility of both her life and career and his square in her lap and she appeared to accept it. Talk about manipulative and controlling! Pike may be a “nice guy,” but he is definitely not a “good man” in my estimation. He is needy and irresponsible with his own life in order to manipulate her to stay with him, although he barely knows her, essentially a trap for both of them.
I’ve dated men like this. That is not a partner. That is a “whatever you want, honey.” He’s decided to cling to Lisbon, no matter what she does. It’s unconscionable to do that to another person and certainly not like his initial, oh you can turn me down if you want, but I’d like to get to know you blah blah. That’s over. Now he “needs” her as a form or substitute for love. I hope she’s realizing that. It will break my heart if she doesn’t.
This is just my view of the current situation, off the top of my head as I write. Others may heartily disagree.
Thanks for bringing your ideas here, Anon. It turns out I have a lot of thoughts about it.
It’s sad that the moment someone tries to look at Lisbon’s behavior with a critical eye it’s called sexist and taking sides and the like. I’m not tying to take sides and I don’t judge her behavior as being righted against Jane or something. I judge it EXACTLY because I’m a feminist and her behavior is not that of an independant woman right now with the way she’s reacting to P. I admit that I have a hard time seing Jane suffer. But my exasperation with Lisbon goes far beyond that. I feel like she’s betraying herself right now because I at least haven’t perceived her as being truly happy. And I don’t find that the behavior of an emancipated woman. That’s my concern. She let herself be cornered by a needy man she doesn’t even love and all she did in reaction was verbally agreeing with him while her whole body language screamed no to me. How could pointing this out be anti-feminist?
And I am angry with Jane too. He is a damn mentalist and should’ve noticed by now that a) she doesn’t get all his subtle attempts to tell her about his feelings and b) have adjusted his behavior accordingly!
But first and foremost I’m angry with the writers right now because to me they’ve been trying to erase information from our minds that had already been firmly planted there. For example Heller himself said in an interview after Desert Rose that the moment Jane couldn’t reach Lisbon on the phone and had RJ answer it he realized that Lisbon was the one person he couldn’t live without. Now obviously Mr. Memory Palace forgot all about that and has to re-discover all these feelings in the course of the next episodes… I don’t buy that!
All in all: I want to make it clear that indirectly both Lisbon and Jane share the blame for what is currently happening (or not) between them and directly it’s the writers who are to blame for thinking that this was the only way to tell this story.
Hi, Anon if you are asking about the scene in which Jane softly says something after talking with Abbott about psychics and before Lisbon comes in. It’s hard to hear, but Jane says, “horse puckey.”